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Remembering PFLAG Founder And Mother

Filed by KOSU News in US News.
January 12, 2013

President Obama spoke about Jeanne Manford in his speech at the annual Human Rights Campaign National Dinner in 2009. Her son, Morty, was an out gay man, and an important figure in New York City’s gay community during the turbulent 1970′s.

“Soon after the protests at Stonewall 40 years ago, the phone rang in the home of a soft spoken elementary school teacher named Jeanne Manford,” the President said.

The phone call Manford received was from a police officer who told her Morty had been arrested at the protests.

“And then the officer added one more thing,” the President continued, “‘And you know, he’s homosexual.’ Well, that police officer sure was surprised when Jeanne responded, ‘Yes, I know. Why are you bothering him?’”

Manford, a shy, petite woman from Flushing, Queens, N.Y., became an activist for gay rights. She founded the national support group called Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays, better known as PFLAG.

Manford’s daughter, Suzanne Manford, remembers her mother’s unyielding support, “When my brother needed her, she just dropped everything for him. She was like a mother bear.”

Suzanne was 21-years-old when her brother, Morty, came out as gay.

A few years earlier, Manford’s oldest son, Charles, had died from an accidental drug overdose. So when Morty ended up in the hospital in 1972, after being brutally beaten at a protest rally, Suzanne says her mother knew she had to act.

“My mother was beside herself with rage that anybody could hurt her child. She’d already lost one, and the fact that she could have lost another, she was seething,” says Suzanne.

After the attack, Manford wrote a letter to the editor of The New York Post, criticizing the police for not protecting him. She wrote, “I have a homosexual son and I love him.” Two months later, she marched alongside Morty in what would eventually become New York City’s pride march.

That move, author Eric Marucs calls unprecedented. He wrote an oral history of the gay rights movement in the United States called “Making History.”

“It’s a little hard to imagine now what that period was like, how revolutionary it was for a parent to walk in the Gay Pride March in New York City carrying a sign that said,’Parents Unite in support of our gay children.’ The timing was right, the time really called for someone like Jeanne, and Jeanne was there.”

Then, in 1973, Manford organized the first formal meeting of PFLAG. She and twenty others gathered at a local church in Greenwich Village. Soon after that initial meeting, she began to receive calls from other parents across the country wanting to start groups in their own communities. The organization has swelled to more than 350 groups nationwide with thousands of members.

One of those members is former National Football League commissioner, Paul Tagliabue, whose son is gay. As a parent he says the support group just makes sense, “She thought it was just a normal thing to do as a mother, and that’s true of most all the parents that get involved.”

He and his wife joined PFLAG, seeking support and guidance from other parents in similar situations, “They don’t think they’re going out there to become politicians or advocates in a unique way. They’re doing what parents should do, which is care for their kids and keep their family together” he adds.

Writer Dan Savage’s mother was also a PFLAG member. Savage says that his mother found solace in the group because it helped her understand what it means to be gay, and to be the parent of a gay child. He remembers his mother’s experience joining the group:

“What Jeanne Manford did was she put it in people’s heads that gay and lesbian people had parents – that we were somebody’s children, and that was the first real big step in the movement towards full acceptance of lesbian, gay, bi, and trans people.”

Morty Manford passed away in 1992 of complications from AIDS. When he heard the news, New York City Council Member Daniel Dromm reached out to Manford, whose mother was also a PFLAG member. Dromm was friends with Morty, and though he had never met Manford, he says they became fast friends from the first time he ever set foot in her house.

“I walked in and Jeanne had pictures of Morty on the mantelpiece and she took them down, and she showed them to me,” he reminisced about meeting her, “As a matter of fact, there was a famous photo of Jeanne marching in that first pride parade, and she was so proud of having that photo, that that moment was recorded in history.”

Dromm says Manford received letters from gay people from all over the world, thanking her for standing up for them and for loving them unconditionally. It’s that love, he says, he’ll remember about her the most.

Jeanne Manford died this past Tuesday at the age of 92. She is survived by her daughter Suzanne and the thousands of children whose families she influenced. [Copyright 2013 National Public Radio]

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